My Husband's Wife

And so comes Day 2 of Blog Every Day in May. 

Day 1 was a challenge for me because I'm not good at writing about myself. 

But, I decided to take Day 2 by the horns. 

"...Day 2: Educate us on something you know a lot about or are good at. Take any approach you'd like (serious and educational or funny and sarcastic)..."

I had a lot of trouble coming up with a topic for discussion. I wouldn't necessarily say I have any special hobbies, and I definitely don't have any special talents. Or, maybe, it's the fact that I don't give myself enough credit for the things I do well. I thought long and hard about this one. 

When I ask myself what I do best, one thing sticks to the back of my mind. What I do every single day. What I live to do. What teaches me to be a better person day in and day out. 

What do I know a lot about? I know how to be a wife. Adam's wife. I'm not a perfect one by any means, but one that is constantly learning how to be better each and every day. 

You should note:

There is more to a marriage than being two people living under the same roof sharing the same space and sleeping in the same bed. 

Marriage is a sacrifice, putting your spouse's wants and needs above your own. Knowing when to say yes and how to say no. 

Marriage is a two part effort that takes work. It requires falling in love again and again, day after day. Remembering how the two of you reached this commitment in the first place. It requires you to be selfless even when you don't want to be. It requires you to apologize even when you know you are right. Realizing that two steps forward and one step back doesn't mean you have failed at this thing we call love. It just means you have to work that much harder to prove this is something you truly care about and that it means enough to you to get it back on the right track. Slow progress is still progress. 

Since I've had Aiden, I've also learned a lot about being a mother and balancing my time to still be a wife to Adam. Sometimes, I get so wrapped up in my son needing me that I forget that my husband still needs me too. He needs to feel that love and support after a long day at work, and I have to remember to give it. It's not that I forget about my husband or that I don't remember to show him the love he needs and deserves, but a baby takes a lot of time and attention and I usually put myself on the back burner. I have to remind myself that forgetting about myself also means forgetting about my husband. 

So, find something to do every day to keep the romance alive in your marriage. The little things sometimes mean the most. 

A few rules we live by:

We never go to bed fighting. Our bed is Switzerland and all arguments cease when it's time for bed. Life's to short to be mad any way. 

We always kiss each other goodnight and make sure to tell each other "I love you."

Tomorrow is not guaranteed. Make sure that the ones you love know it.